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Friends can fight, and still be friends

June 2, 2010

Friends are always an important part of growing up. But often, when we’re young, we can get tangled up in friendships. These tangles bring heartache when it’s not really necessary. One major source of heartache is when friends fight. The hot headedness of youth takes over reason, hurtful things are said and friendships that have taken months or years to blossom can fall apart in a matter of moments. The pain this causes is often severe. What’s worse is that so much of what causes people to lose friends is unnecessary.

There’s a saying that it’s easier to forgive an enemy than it is to forgive a friend. We expect more from our friends and we expect them not to hurt us. But often they do, on purpose or by mistake or perhaps because they had no other option. Feeling hurt for a while is okay. It’s normal and natural. But we really need to ask ourselves whether the incident that hurt us is worth losing the friendship. Often it is not.

Once we realise that, it is far easier to get past the cause of the hurt and move on.

Susan Ramsay is the Young Post editor. Through this column she shares her life experiences in the hope that it will inspire Hong Kong teenagers.

5 Comments leave one →
  1. August 12, 2010 3:22 pm

    Absolutely true.

  2. Karen permalink
    July 10, 2010 7:37 pm

    good post!!!

  3. mwBeatrice permalink
    June 5, 2010 2:58 pm

    That’s true.

  4. Sana permalink
    June 5, 2010 2:26 pm

    yes, it is true. it’s a really good post

  5. June 4, 2010 2:10 pm

    great post!

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