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DO YOU NEED an answer to a problem

and don’t know who to turn to?


Growing up can be hard, but Toni and Josh are here to help.

Whether it’s about school stress, jealous friends, or any other issue making your head spin…

Let it all out right here. Toni & Josh will lend a sympathetic ear.


Please note: Toni & Josh seek to respond as soon as possible, but due to the high number of problems they always receive, it may take up to a few weeks for their answers to go to print.

161 Comments leave one →
  1. Wannabe permalink
    July 14, 2011 7:41 pm

    Help!! I know this guy and I have a crush on him, but recently he thinks I’m really annoying…how can I get him to be friends again?

  2. raven permalink
    June 17, 2011 9:44 pm

    Its summer, well nearly, and all I want to do is write, write, write… but my mom wants me to go to a writing class. So I kinda agreed and now she can’t find any Creative writing classes. Seriously Hong Kong don’t let me down! Somewhere in this amazing city there must be a creative writing class for teens! Save me from English essays please… someone!

  3. June 4, 2011 11:18 pm

    hey josh,
    okay im seriously in a mess. I dated this guy. We broke up . I was dwelling over him…. but somehow me and his best buddy started talking ! Me and my ex bf stopped talking but me and his best buddy, Mark ( not the real name) talked a lot more! We talked like everyday. I think he liked me. He often complimented me , he talked behind my ex bf’s back! He even sang me a love song! Well, he is a singer of the school.
    When he sang me that song, i felt like it was for me…he said he just wished girls would understand him and all. He went really emo and said he doesnt deserve a girl. I comforted him and said he does deserve one. He thought i liked him then. He said say what’s in your heart, tell me that you love me. I couldnt say it cuz i wasnt sure myself. Then i admitted that i like him. He kindly rejected me though…i just don’t know whether he likes me or not!
    I usually talk to him in bed, that night, when i confessed that i like him, he was totally emo! He said that he wishes for me to have a good hubby! I cried cuz i was touched. He comforted me and made me smile. He even said i love you when i had to go. That was the only time he said that.
    Does he love me???? After a few weeks, we were talking less and less. He even asked me to remove him as a friend in facebook. He doesnt all much. And he acted very mean when i called him when he was in the hospital. He was in the hospital for some reason.

    • SorrowLicher permalink
      June 14, 2011 3:11 pm

      you know what?? i think he might be very confused. i think he doesn’t know himself whether he likes you or not.

  4. Laura Elizabeth Johnson permalink
    May 29, 2011 7:09 pm

    Hi I get bullied at school alot !!!! How can I regain my confidence and feel like a cool kid.

    • November 2, 2011 6:11 pm

      I had the same problem too.
      What specifics are going on though? are they making fun of anything in particular or just you?
      Because, if its just you, then ignore them, and be yourself. If you’re a bit childish, grow up, but not so much that you’re all serious.
      If its something specific, like your face or such, ignore them, you were born that way. I had a problem with people making fun of my teeth. They were all crooked, so I told my dad, “I need BRACES.” I’m sitting here around a year and a half later, with a very nice straight top row of teeth.
      I could help a bit more, I just need some specifics.

  5. whynotme permalink
    May 20, 2011 1:38 am

    Hey, I recently have a problem . I “like” ppl very easily and end up switching targets easily . Whenever I confess I’ll get rejected and I’ll end up being down for the whole week till I find my next target . I am not even clear with my feelings now . What should I do ?

    • SorrowLicher permalink
      May 23, 2011 2:34 pm

      yeah me too man, same here. try not to confess until you’re sure both sides like each other — it’ll save you a lot of grief.

  6. Concealer permalink
    April 16, 2011 1:58 am

    Dear Toni & Josh ,

    I sometimes feel physically exhausted and mentally drained about keeping secrets and my own thoughts. I am used to being aired grievances by my friends, but contrarily I cannot voice to them. I don’t think my relatives are good listeners because mine are very private! I hope I can find an unknown and pour my expressions to him/her. / \ HELP!

    • June 5, 2011 6:03 pm

      well u can write your feelings onto a diary ,that will help (:
      or you can go omegle, you can talk to strangers and you might
      meet someone who is a good listener.

  7. Jessica permalink
    April 11, 2011 11:49 pm

    Dear Toni,

    I recently received my mid term report card online. I did well in most subjects except for chinese. My grade went down this year and I am really worried about what my parents would say. They haven’t seen my report card yet. I’m scared because my parents say they may take me out of school if any of my grades dropped. I really thought that I made an improvement this year. Please help me, I don’t know what to do.

    • Sunny permalink
      April 19, 2011 5:30 pm

      You still have half year to go on man!
      I think you MUST tell them you’ve already endured and done your best!
      You are striving for excellence but sadly the truth is on the report card.
      It’s not your fault, because you are not lazy at all.
      Make guarantee and convince them.
      I hope you still own the chance to study 🙂

      • hearty advice for teenagers permalink
        April 30, 2011 5:54 pm

        Though I understand that having the threat of being taken out from school is truly terrifying to every student, I think you must let your parents see your report card, as hiding it and avoiding this problem is absolutely not a measure to solve this. I believe the best course of action is to first reflect on your own, whether you have been sedulous or sluggish in studying throughout the term.

    • Chrisse Leung permalink
      May 30, 2011 6:42 pm

      Just don’t be too worried

  8. Hudson permalink
    March 5, 2011 7:47 pm

    Dear Toni and Josh,

    I have this problem with friends.
    I seem like I have a lot, but ever since something happened with me and my (no longer) girlfriend, I feel like a joke. Some people laugh at me for no reason, be it my hair, what I say, what I do, who my friends are, and how I draw all the time.

    What should I do?


    • Concealer permalink
      April 16, 2011 2:07 am

      Ignore them and just be yourself.
      They are trying to push you into a dark corner.
      If you are intereferd by them, you are being trapped!!!
      That’s exactly what they want!

      • November 2, 2011 6:13 pm

        Yay! Ever since the new year started, I’ve been adjusting to High-School, (i’m a freshie) and i’ve managed to make friends with the people who were my “friends” before. 🙂
        thanks concealer 😀

  9. Rachelle permalink
    February 15, 2011 9:10 pm

    Dear Toni & Josh ,

    My bestfriend is s annoying that for the past month I started hanging out with others and avoiding her . Im turning to you because its to awkward for me to talk to other friends. I don’t want to face my old best friend anymore because she never appreciate me and care for me
    rachelle (F.1)

    • Vivian permalink
      March 19, 2011 5:58 pm

      i know how you feel, dude. But maybe it may feel better if you share you thoughts with your friends. I may the the best possible solution in finding the answer: By other people’s opinion.

    • Hutchins permalink
      March 20, 2011 6:51 pm

      Evidently, what you seem to call your ‘best friend’ can’t be your best friend if you think that she does not appreciate nor care for you. I don’t think that you should find it awkward talking to other friends other than your ‘best friend’ because you have the right and liberty to do so. However, if you think that your best friend will feel bad if you avoid her and not talking to her, you should at least, keep her as a friend. At least, you won’t be making another enemy!

  10. Adrian permalink
    January 2, 2011 2:36 pm

    Dear Josh,

    I am now in F.4. I am worried about my chinese and english. I got very low marks in my exam. How can I improve my english in order to achieve a better result in the public exam?


  11. Boulder permalink
    December 18, 2010 3:35 pm

    hi toni,
    Toni, i am quite popular in my school and people like to follow me around, so its very hard to get some time alone with my best friend and to share our feelings with one another. i try to tell the girls to go away but who listens. I am studying in a girls school that’s why there is no guy to distract them. How should i deal with them?


  12. Boulder permalink
    December 18, 2010 3:21 pm

    Dear Toni,
    I am heartbroken because someone i really liked has misunderstood me and is not talking to me anymore. I am so depressed that i tried to cut myself.I really like that person but now i have no idea what to do. To move on or lock myself in my room and cry for several hours.

    • SorrowLicher permalink
      January 31, 2011 12:28 pm

      Dont cut yourself! Life is precious! To tell you the truth, the same thing happened to me. I didn’t know what to do either. I guess you should cry it all out first, get it all out, then try to get forget about it and move on. That’s life. Life is hard. Just know that you are not alone in the world~ there are others like you. +oil!!! =]

    • CARLA permalink
      March 16, 2011 5:52 pm

      I know everything about what you are going through.
      I really really like this guy and i told some friends. By the next week everyone knew. I didn’t really mind. A few days later my best friend told me that one of my other friends was dating that boy. I asked my friend about it and she denied the whole thing. Then I asked the guy and he said “yeah, how did you know we were dating? Did X tell you?
      I was sooooooo upset because I had liked this guy for ages and then I went into a sort of depression (my best friends told me I wasn’t being my own social self and smiling all the time).
      I still like that guy but he’s still dating my friend. At the end of the day, there isn’t anything I can do. I think you should cry it all out and then move on.

    • June 5, 2011 6:06 pm

      if it’s a misunderstanding, go to that person and talk it over!
      don’t just sulk over it. try to clear things out, so you dont have to regret later on for not trying
      hope this helped and plz dont cut urself
      if this guy doesnt listen to u/understand you then he’s not worth it (:
      PS LYFE IS PRECIOUS dont give it away lyke that

  13. Stressedout permalink
    December 18, 2010 3:15 pm

    I am stressed out!I have school work home tension and friends!The worst part is I always get discouraged by everyone even my own mom.No one ever has time for me.My friends are all so choosy and I am a bit mature to be in their group. Please give me advice to releive my stress.

  14. December 1, 2010 12:09 pm

    Fidgeting, I guess the most important question you should ask yourself is whether you can manage your current amount of homework. If there’s too less homework, your father may be right, although you’ll need to look at other factors as well. The bottom line is that you should learn new things at school everyday. If not, you may be undermining your potential and your future job. Even if you go to a new school, you can continue meeting up with your friends from the old one.

  15. Fidgeting permalink
    November 29, 2010 8:47 pm

    dear Toni, im in S1 and i have just started 2term and my dad said that if they didnt give me a lots of homework at school,i either moved school or do cram school which i have to study chinese. I dont want to moved school but i dont want to go to cram school either. And my dad is super strict and i dont know what to say to him . pls help !!!

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